Powerful Goal Setting

To set goals to become reality, we must have goals that have 6 criteria, and you can remember the initial: EMAPTA What do these Acronyms mean?

Exact: Goals and objectives should be specific! A goal that means "lose weight" or "have more money next year" has no value. We have to be specific, saying for example "I will lose 14 kilos" or "I will increase my income from 500 to 1000 dollars a month." In this particular case as I have set specific goals for 2009 "Down 1 kilo of weight per month."

Measurable: Your objectives and goals must be measurable. "Be Healthy" is not measurable, but have 12 kg less or lower-class 34 to 32 if they are. The vast majority of people do not achieve their goals because they do not consider measurable achievements. Again, we are reinforcing the message: to have measurable goals, your mind will pursue that goal and be more focused on a goal.

Adjusted: Goals and objectives are complicated as time passes we are not very motivating. You need goals to make you leave your comfort zone, those goals that make you think and take massive action (such as double your income in 6 months), that thought generates more adrenaline, more energy in you.

Purpose: Have you ever thought to do something just do not have the motivation to achieve it? If you think about it, the goals do not create motivation, are only the addresses you want to go. What could motivate you truly are the purposes behind the goals. This "why" is very important. So, after setting the goal (like losing 1 kg per month), then you should think and write the reasons why it is important to you. Only when the "Why" is strong enough you will have the motivation to take action. In my case it's health: I have to stay healthy for my family to enjoy as many years as possible. If my health were to deteriorate as a result of obesity, then they suffer a lot and would be very sad. My kids and I would miss them too. That's a big motivation for me.

Time Limit: We must set a time limit; usually people do not set limits on "when" they want to achieve their goals. The vast majority says to you, "someday" they started a business, so they set the day but do not say to him "that day." Many people are still waiting.

Action: Finally we have a plan of action. As I mentioned in my previous article "how to generate goals come true", we should all have an action plan to implement our goals, and I always found to comply at least 3 shares on the first day, and if possible, 1 share in the first 5 minutes of writing the goal.

In the example I'm showing, I decided to lose weight, my first action was to enumerate all the factors associated with obesity, which may affect my health. Secondly, I searched the Internet a place where I could get recipes for salads. My third step was to take pictures of when I was in college; there I am with a pant size lower. You see, were 3 actions I took in less than a day, and that gave me enough momentum to continue with the other actions planned to achieve my goal.

Go ahead, think about a goal you want to accomplish, to generate meaning in your life, and applying the EMAPTA, I hope you will generate sufficient clarity in the future.

Learn To Control Your Character

Character is something that differentiates us significantly from others. Some people are more temperamental, are pure fire. By contrast there are quieter than just take it out and sometimes overwhelm even leave...

Ideally, this issue is to find the balance, that balance is called assertiveness. Assertiveness is the ability to leave a comment and not be controlled or manipulated by others. All this without using hurtful words or blame, but from the settlement, a good understanding and putting the resolution as a basic principle. At the same time be firm and not allow abuse of your goodwill.

But a wild character is going to do more harm than good. I encourage you to leave behind the excuse "I am well" and do a little effort to begin controlling your character, because in the end the only harmed is you because of this lack of control.

Count to ten before exploding and rethink.

Operates normally when the character is an automatic reactive effect. Do not think, something happens and the progress of your blood begins to boil and explode.

What I propose is that you count to ten in that moment and breathe deeply. Once you've done that, start to think about what is best for you, what suits you best. Usually avoids an explosion of adverse and devastating effects on others.

Training

Many women ask me every day. But how to control my temper? It is very difficult. The answer is training.

Every muscle in our body need exercise, and forget the brain is a muscle. And the first day we can do a triple somersault, but with a common training, can work wonders.

Try again and again, though not often one can achieve it. Please try again, you reflect on what went wrong last time and try again correcting the deficiencies you observe.

It is very important not to lose heart at this time. Nothing in life is learned without practice, practice, practice.

Use external influences

We have many mechanisms that can help us control our character both as to change states of mind that we are not satisfied, or achieve a desired mood.

For example, music is one of the most effective mechanisms to achieve states of mind, we can relax, feel energized, get nervous, mourn or wanting to eat the world.

A good comedy can make you change your mood. I remember once many years ago I went to the movies with my partner, by the way we fight. The film was a comedy "Dumb and Dumber", shortly after the movie started the laughter broke out and took our anger.

Use the resources made available around you to change your mood and your character does not operate as easily preventing you from achieving your goals.

Anxiety and Failure

Anxiety dulls the intellect. Thus, anxious people are more likely to fail despite their high scores on their IQ.

Anxiety affects any kind of performance. This kind of concern is a negative cognitive interference when it is inserted into a situation that requires our attention; it invades all attempts to achieve concentration. This is because the concern detracts from the resources available to process information in a cognitive task.

If we focus on the concern of failing we devote less attention to clarify responses. Therefore, Goleman says that "our concerns become self-fulfilling prophecies, pushing us to predict disaster."

People who are adept at using their emotions can take the anxiety to motivate and prepare well for a good performance. A euphoric state can promote creative activities that require fluency and imagination, like humor, which favors the ability to think with greater flexibility and complexity. But if the euphoria gets out until it became a mania, as in bipolar disorder, the agitation weakens the ability to think coherently.

Mild mood changes can influence thinking. At the time of making decisions or carry out projects of people who are in a good mood, they tend to be more communicative and have a positive mindset. Memory depends on the particular mood, so that when we are in a good mood, it is easier for a person to remember positive events.

On the other hand, when we are in a bad mood we tend to take negative directions because we cannot see or think clearly. People in a bad mood cannot coherently grasp what must be done because they are more engrossed with their bad feelings, thus when one is in a bad mood one must take a more cautious decision.

From the standpoint of emotional intelligence, hope protects against defeatism and depression when facing difficulties or setbacks.

Techniques To Lower The General Level Of Anxiety

Exercise

Proper exercise helps to tone muscle, avoiding both the rigidity and excessive activation of the nervous system, causing fatigue that promotes healthy sleep and calm excessive musings and ruminations.

If your fitness is unfortunate (feelings of dizziness, vertigo, nausea) and cannot tolerate intense exercise, you can choose to divide it into small pieces throughout the day and from a gentle pace, until you get to efforts of more substance.

It is preferable to practice a fun sport fun that you have enjoyed in the past. That way it will give us greater satisfaction than cold and heavy gymnastics.

Slowdown

Faced with a stressful situation imposes a certain reduction of our aspirations. We cannot force the pace to fit more things in the same period of time, and must be selected with relevant criteria, trying to delegate or defer the rest.

Slow means slow down our movement by forcing a "walking speed,'' basking in the perfection and polishing what we have at hand. For example, write with very good hand, selecting words and phrases, expand, going into details and considerations, review the work and creative small improvements.

The feelings of emptiness can be filled with something to help us in our daily life like trying out a hobby. Slow down and have fun, play and relax. Life is not a race. Go and smell the flowers!

Planning activities

The wisdom and cunning in planning our activities is another useful tool to defuse tensions, knowing when to insert appropriate breaks to relieve anxiety or changing the type of task to a softer or bearable one.

We must not forget that after the day we are to satisfy different needs and not neglect them is a way to harmonize, spending time with friends, do our readings, music and personal pleasures, with moments of emotional contact. As different as we are from others, we need to review and strengthen the relationships and bonds that hold our friendships, family and relationships together.